“In this fabulous book, which everyone must own, Ed Tronick and Claudia Gold give all of us a scientifically-based compass for negotiating the messiness of social interaction. Rather than searching for perfection, in this book they teach us that it is the messiness and the mistakes we inevitably make as parents, friends, and lovers, and the repair of our mistakes that really matters. For in repair we ‘co-create a new meaning,’ and relationships thrive and proceed, full of life and good enough. Get this book!”

―John Gottman, author of Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

“Lively and riveting…Human connections have the power to heal by engaging us in a new set of moment-to- moment mismatches…as long as we are open to repair and reconnect.”
―Bessel van der Kolk, MD, author of The Body Keeps the Score

“A brilliant overview of our contemporary relational landscape that argues that what people — both children and adults — need most is the messiness of real relationships, with their conflicts, partial resolutions, and imperfect efforts at repair. In trying to make these things work, we practice attention, connection, and listening. We practice our humanity. We learn to put technology in its place. A book for thinking and for practical action. A must-read.”
―Sherry Turkle, author of Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology

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